Russian Red or Midnight Blue?
Posted by Kaleidoscope on December 6, 2005
Written by: Mushmushi
Noura was standing in front of the full-length mirror she had in her closed bedroom, modeling the armor she intends to wear for tonight’s battle of seduction. It’s Thursday night; the first night of her weekend, the second to last night before her one-week business trip to meet with Goldman Sachs in London, and one of the only nights that Hatem does not have to stay on-call at the Children’s hospital. While she was trying on various miniscule outfits, whose small size do not match their exorbitant prices, she was humming Rod Stewart’s “Tonight’s the Night” in her head, fantasizing about the ways in which this independent respectable financial analyst was going to behave like a completely carefree courtesan to turn her man on. After much internal deliberating on which body part showed more cellulite, thighs or buttocks, she decided to go with the red negligee, as it falls slightly below the thighs and conveniently covers both pesky bodily concerns.
The courtesan put on her negligee and matched it with her red stilettos. She lotionized her Arab curves, teased her dark brown mane to give herself that “wickedly WILD woman” effect, lit the finest bukhoor Al-Shaye3 could offer and laced her herself with its infusion. For the grand finale, Noura covered her regular-sized lips with an oversized layer of MAC’s Russian Red lip-gloss and stepped out of her bedroom.
Hatem was sitting on the living room with the lights on, the TV off, and the laptop very much in action. This pediatrician-always the scientist- was doing research on past occurrences of avian flu in children and what inoculations can be used to prevent it. Hatem was interested in learning about these inoculations and bringing them to Kuwait, as a few cases of the ubiquitous avian flu disease have already surfaced in the country, and Hatem wanted to protect the babies from this infectious sickness. Noura loved his gentle nature. He’s such a dad, ya 7elwa… He loves to take care of others. Well, maybe he’ll stop being a dad and start being a DADDY tonight, she wickedly thought to herself. The courtesan walked ever so sensually to where the scientist was doing research and sat next to him, much to his oblivion. She, then, threw her right hand upon his stiff-with-concentration neck and slid her left hand to his left knee, slowly caressing her way northward.
“Deeri balich min alwayer…. Tara allaptop ma fee bataraya killish.” Hatem snapped.
Pretending to ignore the fact that he did notice nor acknowledge her sexiness, Noura playfully whispered in his ear “Don’t you want to take a break, 7abeebi?”
“Moo al7een… ” snapped Hatem once again.
Dissed twice…khara bshaklek, Hatemooo… al7een mino illi aham, aana wala those stupid kids…. Astaghfar Allah, that was so mean of me, but I’m traveling, goddamn it!
Noura’s embarrassment at Hatem’s ignorance of her seduction efforts began to slowly mix with her annoyance at his behavior. After all, they were both workaholic, career-oriented (appropriately childless) Kuwaiti yuppies and work has always taken the majority of their time and interest. But this was sex, damn it, their night of debauchery and lechery…an intrinsic NEED, a marital RIGHT, and, if it were Hatem wanting IT, an outright HUMAN RIGHT! Why is it that when the male spouse wants it, the female spouse must be at his disposal, and when the female spouse wants it, the response is “moo al7een”?
I’m traveling in two days, damn it. Friday afternoon is lunch with his parents and in the evening, I have to run my errands and pack. Tonight’s the Night… khara bishaklek, 3a6ni wayh!!
Remembering her mamma’s words that frowning always ruins a pretty girl’s face, Noura continued with the caressing, the whispering, the flirting, the swaying; why, this courtesan pulled out all the heavy artillery in this battle of seduction. Hatem was unrelenting in his concentration. Gentle was his nature, steadfast was his quest to save the babies, oblivious was his mind to his poor wife’s advances (which at this late stage in the evening, began to border harassment).
Thursday evening faded into Friday morning. Hatem typed away at his laptop. Noura wiped off the Russian Red, put on the baby blue flannel PJs, and went to bed. In the battle for seducing Hatem’s mind tonight, she was clearly unarmed.
December 5, 2005 at 10:47 pm
Mushmushi I loved it!
Haha, so typical and what a dampener when getting ready for a hot night and your partner is oblivious to all your efforts.
She should invest in a whip to get things going
December 6, 2005 at 9:23 am
OMG, that one instance should be enough to justify divorce! :^)
=^..^=
December 6, 2005 at 2:17 pm
Mushmushi, Thats sad… she should have pulled the plug..took away the laptop…did something…anything. She shouldnt take no for an answer…its not like he’s sleepy or has a headache!! OMG now i’m boiling…wayid i7tarrait.
December 6, 2005 at 4:23 pm
Maybe the sex has gotten stale. Perhaps that is the reason Hatem brushed her aside. It happens often. It’s not really what the woman puts on her body but more of how she puts on her body.
December 6, 2005 at 6:38 pm
Maybe if she weren’t so aggressive to the point of being pathetic she’d more appreciated. A lot of time your value has to do with the perception you create in the other person’s mind rather than what your value really is. In other words you can be a really great wife but if you create the perception that you’re anything less than a plate of diamonds then your husband will won’t appreciate you.
Eclectic, could you please have my name linked to my blog? Merci awi
http://zinzinkuwait.blogspot.com/
December 6, 2005 at 8:56 pm
tara mo gaseb hehe :/
December 6, 2005 at 8:57 pm
- delete this comment after reading -
zinzin over here, just write teh address in the Website tab, just under the name ..
any other place u comment u just gotta be logged on and itll link to ur profile bro7a
December 6, 2005 at 9:10 pm
ok Tim, thanx
December 6, 2005 at 9:45 pm
teme, adri mo3′a9ib but the woman obviously made an effort he should not yadgirha… that’s just mean. She’s his wife and he should satisfy her needs just as he expects her to satisfy his needs when he wants it!
if it were vice versa you would give us hell about the angels damning us for not giving husbands what they want.
3azeezi tara it goes both ways
December 6, 2005 at 11:11 pm
zinzin sure.. and a3sab, am not sure who ur referring to with “u would give us hell abt…”, ana shako al7een shabaitay 3alay, ee walla
anyway, i understand the needs both partners have.. but im talking in THAT particular time and situation, dala3 o mosaakha
le kole 7aadethen 7adeeth
December 6, 2005 at 11:11 pm
Thank you, my darlings for all your comments. I see the married ladies- Jewaira, Qatar Cat and A3sab- have had a little experience with what Noura went through that evening.
The bottom line is this: marriage is not a “play hard to get” game. It’s a permanent relationship, where one seeks ALL TYPES OF COMFORT from their spouse. If yo’ woman wants it, you gots ta give it to her! Full stop, period, the end.
The problem is not that sex is bad (after all, this is a monogamous marriage, so Hatem needs to deal with whatever quality of lovin’ he’s getting, Tantalize :-P) or that she is throwing himself on him (ZinzinQ8 and Temetwir… shda3wa ya 7afeth? Can’t a sista show some love?!) The problem is that Hatem is self-involved, and that is never fair in a marriage. Then again, perhaps Noura needs to get a prop to “whip” Hatem into shape! (Pun very much intended.)
December 6, 2005 at 11:14 pm
zinzin sure.. and a3sab, i dunno who ur referring to when u say “u would give us hell about the angels…”, ana shako al7en shabaity 3alay
anyway sh biseer bel denya lo enha en6arat shway or found a better time, like in THAT particular case dala3 o musaakha sara7a.. sure shes got needs but that doesnt mean tedesh b akhlaag el esbay,, and the same goes for the guy btw y3ni ma7ad gal shay
le koli 7aadethen 7adeeth
December 7, 2005 at 6:48 am
Aaaah…dala3 o musaakha sara7a
From men that is!
Now that is the attitude we are talking about
Come on. If someone has taken effort to look extra special for you, you can at least put the damn laptop away. It is called courtesy.
Hatem should at least pretend to be interested; who knows? He might even get aroused if he gives himself a chance
December 7, 2005 at 7:47 am
Noura needs to call ME up! I’ll whip her into shape. ;^)
December 7, 2005 at 9:29 am
Ah, Tantalize…what a gentleman… always ready to help a damsel in distress (especially when the distress is in the boudoir!)
December 7, 2005 at 9:54 am
LOL@ Tanta.
Mushmushi - as for the little experience we married ladies might or might not have had - this is beside the point
The point is Hatem behaved like an *insert a pretty bad word here*, and he definitely shouldn’t have. Marriage is a full time job. It’s his JOB to make sure she doesn’t feel so rejected, even if sex does not happen. It’s his JOB to comfort her and explain the reason for “not now”. It’s his JOB to hug and kiss and compliment, it doesn’t take long. His other job which kept him so busy could wait a few moments.
=^..^=
December 7, 2005 at 1:29 pm
teme, I’m refering to men in general…when they are turned down by their wives even it were for legitimate reasons (illness, kids…whatever) they would use the prophet’s hadith to mAke their wives sleep with them. the hadith i’m refering to “supposedly” (and I do stress on supposedly) says something about the angels damning the wife who turns down her husband.
(kidding mo it3a9ib 3alay)
ba3dain shino dala3 ew misa7′a…this is called foreplay…teme it looks like you need an intensive course on this matter.
December 7, 2005 at 1:35 pm
عندج اياه، أعصاب، طلعي حرتج فيه
(sorry Qatar Cat… I just told A3sab to let Temetwir have it!)
Just kidding, my darlings…
December 7, 2005 at 1:37 pm
zinzin and teme, a piece of advice:
If you want to have a healthy sex life in your future marriages you should forget about prestige and pride and all that bullshit. The more you think about these things the more you’ll create barriers and restrictions with your spouses.
December 7, 2005 at 2:21 pm
jewaira the biology of the matter is he couldve been aroused in 5 minutes so thats a given.. but still in that particular situation shes being unreasonable
a3sab i know el 7adeeth ur referring to, and its true (true that a wife has to give in) but btw the same is true for the men (at least 3end il shee3a) - ya3ni il fekra ena both spouses have got to resort to one another for their needs and the other partner has to comply, forgot what its actually called.. but i can look into it if u want
anyway, thats just common sense.. whats not common sense is the situation described in the story and u guys actually rooting for the chick
+ om mejrin i have no idea where u got the pride and prestige thing from .. ?
December 7, 2005 at 2:53 pm
The gist of the story is not to examine the sexual frustrations of the wife, regardless of whether her seduction is too forward or not. The situation described in the story is that of a selfish husband not responding to his wife’s efforts in beautifying herself for him. He is quite familiar with the fact that she will be traveling for a whole week, which means that the couple will not be intimate for seven days. That is A LONG TIME for a young and healthy married couple to be apart. Way too long!
The character that I am trying to show in Hatem is that of a good, kind-hearted, successful man, but whose life revolves around his own interests. His profession is humanitarian, he is well read, he cares about his patients and has a general sense of the “Good Samaritan” by researching how to keep children safe from a disease. He is just tooooooooooooooooooo f#@%** self-involved. Similar to his behavior in the previous story (please refer to Where have all the Arab knights gone?), he loves his wife, but loves himself more. Unfortunately, examples of this type of character are RAMPANT in Kuwait.
ولا ننسى أن الزواج الناجح مبني على تنازل الطرفين ومراعاتهم لمشاعر بعضهم بعض
December 7, 2005 at 4:31 pm
teme, let me explain, if a woman wants to sleep with her husband she shouldn’t wait for him to make the first move…many Arab women think that they would lose pride and prestige if they show their husbands when and HOW they want it (sex).
Another thing about pride…it shouldnt be a factor between a husband and wife. For example, when one of them makes a mistake and needs to apologize to the other he/she should not hold back thinking “oh my pride does not allow me”
“كرامتي ما تسمحلي”
that’s the bullshit i’m talking about teme.
About the hadith, its not about sunni versus shiite interpretation, i’m sure the prophet (pbuh) meant that it goes both ways, however the problem is that MEN regardless of how religious they are (or not) will use the hadith for their advantage wihtout considering the condition of the poor wife even if she is extremely ill or simply too tired.
Now if Hatem were sick or sleepy or very tired then I would cut him some slack. But he was not not not.
bas ta3abt.
December 7, 2005 at 5:58 pm
Mushmushi: many relationships lose steam in which the sexuality follows. No matter how much a couple may try sometimes to remedy it, it becomes useless. Maybe Hatem just doesn’t get turned on by Noura anymore. It’s common. He’s probably more turned on by his 20 year-old female patients. That’s probably why he’s intensely researching the Avian Flu! ;^)
December 7, 2005 at 6:34 pm
Tantalize, what you’re saying, sad as it may be, could very well be true. However, this is the reason why a lot of us are worried %$#^less about WHO we marry because he could end up being as insufferable as a man who fulfills every duty he has except that which he owes his wife. I mean what happens when she hits 50 and she gets menopausal? A man could be very intellectual, highly educated, and accomplished in his career, but we women shouldn’t let that stay stuff blind from his flaws…in this case, his flaw is being a cold bastard, ya3ni we33 il sara7a.
a3sab, I didn’t mean to say that this wasn’t Hatim’s duty. Frankly, I don’t even need to verify the hadeeth on that matter because it simply MAKES SENSE. However, I could be wrong to view things this way, and maybe it’s because I’ve never been married, but I simply cannot imagine any male-female relation that is devoid of pride. It doesn’t mean that the women should never ask for anything, but she should never, and I don’t care how long she’s been married, allow things to get to the point that her husband actually refuses her in that way. I’m sorry that was simply pathetic.
December 7, 2005 at 9:23 pm
zinzin, do you think that she should never have made the move in the first place? how would she have known that he’d reject her? I really dont see her as pathetic but rather as maskeenah poor thing she didnt see it coming.
December 7, 2005 at 9:52 pm
I feel sorry for her too a3sab.But for me to be “maskeena” is the same as me being pathetic. For me to be pathetic, make me shudder. For me to be pathetic because of a MAN, husband or otherwise, makes me enraged. She should have called it quits when she saw the initial reaction. Later on, she can make him pay for that. She has to fulfill her duty of course in the end, but make him beg a little, teach him by experience what he was doing to her. La yestas’hilha chithee
December 7, 2005 at 10:58 pm
i agree with you on the payback big time.
December 8, 2005 at 7:15 pm
There are many times when a man loves it when his woman is forward and makes the first moves.
But sometimes he may want his woman to be more subtle; perhaps Hatem is the kind that doesn’t like sudden change; he is engrossed in his work and needs to be eased out of that concentration slowly. Some people are like that.
Don’t forget, that Noura has spent a considerable amount of time getting ready AND getting aroused: choosing a negligee, rubbing her body with creams, perfumes etc.. and arousing herself with delightful thoughts. She is definitely in the mood for sex.
All that while Hatem’s mind is full of Bird Flu.
So a little bit of subtlety is called for, no? A little flair, and something called the art of seduction.
Ok, I know I changed my tune
but that is really what I think happened in this situation 