The Useless Kuwaiti Male

written by: Ayya

(This article was written in response to Tantalize’s entry The USELESS-A- (The Useless Kuwaitia)

Three years in high school and he had not made it. His family had to find him wasta* for a decent job so that he could at least earn his own expenses. He is Kuwaiti and he wants to live lavishly like his peers. A computer to chat, a large screen TV in his private room, X,Y,Z and getting laid all become necessities. Except for the latter, he gets all of them by monthly installments that eat up all his humble salary before the end of the month, but the family is always there to help, so there is no problem.

But he is still frustrated; he wants and needs to get laid.

His mother is sympathetic, yet she is sarcastically predicting what wrath Allah will cast upon him when his sinful desires lead him to the path of incorrectness with the forbidden fruit. She tries her best to find him a suitable Kuwaiti girl to ensure his future with a generous dowry and housing that is offered by the government. The candidate must fear God and have a secure job; to her it’s a life contract and to him it’s only sex.

He wants a goddess to tease and please his manhood yet at the same time he wants her to be untouched: purer than pure.

At the other end, he assumes his role as a hunter; he maneuvers between chatting rooms on the Net and learns the lustful language in hopes of getting laid. He also Gizzes** on the Gulf Road or 7ob*** Street aiming for the jackpot where he learns the language of lust with a female to target her at a private place for a quickie.

But, one day the hunter stumbles and becomes prey.

She is the perfect girl, young and naive, from a good family, not as hot as Britney Spears, but attractive enough to aggravate his desires and pure enough to ensure her future loyalty. He tries every trick in the book to get her into his claws, but she’s not like the rest. She seems very vehement at a distance yet very reverent in proximity, and most importantly, she works and has an income which beholds the blessings of his family.

From the beginning, he sweet-talks her into spending the KD 4000 Government dowry on the marriage expenses and honeymoon for both of them. And, although her family seems more rational when they unanimously vote against this coupling, they will eventually give up and in some cases might even chip into providing a more decent start for the newlyweds.

She, nevertheless, seems contented with the little accommodation that his family has provided. She naively believes that love can conquer all and she does not hesitate to facilitate all her savings and her income to better their life together. He is her life investment now.

By now one might think that he had it made; expenses and sex are taken care of, but apparently he does not stop his gizzing. Why? BECAUSE HE NEEDS VARIETY. He is man. He is horny. He is animalistic.

His wasta* works fine with him, and he gets promoted from one position to another. As a result, his income increases and they move out to a rented apartment. Not only that, but he is also able to stash away some savings as an excuse to provide for future needs and emergencies, while she takes care of all the other expenses as she is willingly investing in her family.

When the government finally accommodates them with a suitable house, facilitated with long term easy payments, he registers it under his name. After all, he is the head of the family and he is the one who has supposedly been taking care of the payments from his own savings while apparently she is not given any right to share the ownership of the house. And when she protests, he salvages himself in the arms of his cheap mistresses to whom he complains about his ever-nagging wife.

Kids come, and along comes schooling and extra expenses, but that is her responsibility, not his. She should be able to manage whatever time and money she’s got, for most of the expenses that she perceives as mandatory, he deems unnecessary. Besides, he holds an important position; his job presents the security for the family. He can’t waste his precious time with the kids. And, she understands that and willingly fills in for him, but what she could never understand is his pleading need for entertainment elsewhere. He has even had the nerve to accuse her of being behind his infidelity as she was the one who supposedly neglected him and busied herself raising his kids.

She suddenly wakes up remembering her family warnings; she realizes how exhausted she is with heavy responsibilities that he continues to take for granted and becomes habituated to. Not only that, she also realizes that after years of giving, she practically owns nothing that could ensure a decent life with her children if she decided to physically separate.

With broken pride, she drags herself around, unnoticed like thousands of other women in her society. Mentally separated from the man she once willingly loved.

Now, where has her life investment gone?

Is he the Useless one now? Or, are you the idiot?

* Wasta: link
** Gizzing: wandering aimlessly on the streets and checking each and every promising female figure
*** 7ob: love

© COPYRIGHT AYYA 2005